Man of Honor Duties at Wedding

Man of Honor Duties Checklist

The Bride's First Attendant
An Honor to Serve

by Valerie Tillery, www.plannersguide.com

Buy the couple a nice wedding gift
Be at the Rehearsal on time
Bring her flowers at the Rehearsal to practice with

Help at the Rehearsal Dinner where needed, introducing yourself
Give a toast at rehearsal dinner, if appropriate

Help the bride decorate the reception and ceremony site, if needed

Help the bride remain calm prior to ceremony and at altar
Help the bride to laugh--she'll be stressed

Arrange the bride's train and veil before the ceremony begins and just after she arrives at the altar
Hold the bouquet during the ceremony during the exchanging of the rings until after the kiss

Stand in the receiving line.
Play hostess along with the bridesmaids at frequent points during the reception: greet guests, making them feel comfortable, ask guests if they are having a good time and if they need anything, show guests where to sit, direct them to restrooms, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest book, etc.
Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and/or the money bag from the dollar dance and keep them in a safe place
Give a toast at the reception, but after the Best Man
Dance with the Bridesmaids

Assist with the bride's luggage
Help the bride's mother get all the wedding gifts loaded
Help the bride's mother get the bridal gown packed and loaded
Help gather keepsake souvenirs of the wedding for the bride, such as toasting glasses, flowers, favors, and gather up the guest book once all guests have signed in
Ask if there is any rental items that might need loading

Do your best to be calm, cheery & gracious

(even if you don't feel like it)

Be her Best Friend!

Eric Hegwer Romantic wedding photography

The idea of having a male attendant as the first attendant for the bride never occurred to me. With so many details centered around traditional etiquette, there are times when this lovely gesture is just fine. Such was the case when my nephew was asked by his cousin to be her honored attendant. It seemed appropriate as close cousins, growing up together and as close as brother and sister.

As I assisted with his preparations, I decided to come up with a list of duties for him. It at least provides a guideline of things to tend and helps him to 'keep his eye on the ball.'

The bride may choose to have her Man of Honor wear a white tux or a tux similar to the groomsmen, yet with differences. The color of the shirt might be different or he may wear a different color of boutonniere. He'll need to be photographed as her first attendant, always standing next to her.

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Best Wishes to Laurie Ginette Hight &

Mathew Carl Henning, March 3, 2012!

Wedding Colors
Primary colors for spring, warm colors for fall, cool colors for summer and deep colors for winter. Some choose their favorite colors while others choose colors that match theme ideas. In recent years, some brides have chosen black for their maids and matron's dresses, yet the best southern rule would raise an eyebrow over this decision as being inappropriate. In old times, the wedding party would dress in white to match the bride in the event the bride was kidnapped. It also averted evil spirits.

Create a combination of colors that fit with the effect you are creating. Blend colors, patterns and designs to develop your theme.

Colors tell who you are, your personality, the favorite season and the image you offer others. Simple and elegant to boastful and proud.

Japanese brides use red as a tradition. Victorian lovers might use tapestry. Go to the paint section and pull color cards to mix and match. This will give you plenty to study by and generate ideas for your beautiful wedding.

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